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Five years ago, I never would have thought that I would be celebrating my bachelorette party without drugs and/or alcohol. But, I did! My sober bachelorette party was seriously one of the best weekends ever–especially because I can remember it all! How did I have my sober bachelorette party? By being open and honest with my bridal party about what I expected from them and packing activities in that would keep my mind from straying to alcohol.
Just to clarify, none of my bridesmaids are sober, but they all have been supportive in my sobriety journey. They didn’t make it weird that I was sober on my bachelorette party. They brought tons of decorations, games, accessories, pool floats, fanny packs, and personalized straw hats. Mostly penis themed, of course.
Sober Bachelorette Party at the Beach!
We spent the weekend at a condo on the beach in Gulf Shores, AL. The ladies who planned the weekend were the real MVPs because they asked me in advance what I would be comfortable with as far as drinking was concerned. I was fine with them drinking but asked that they not bring any weed. They brought me plenty of La Croix and ginger beer!
Throughout the weekend, I didn’t feel any desire to drink. We were too busy relaxing on the beach, singing Ariana Grande songs, or telling embarrassing stories. Not drinking alcohol does not mean being idle. Our weekend was full to the brim! Naturally, we spent time on the beach and played multiple penis-related games. We also had a Zumba class taught by my Maid of Honor. She also hosted a spiritual marriage blessing on the beach by moonlight. We even went to a club where I danced on a table (see video), had a spa night in, and drank every beverage out of penis straws.
The best part about the weekend is that I was able to soak up all of the love without a haze of alcohol or hangovers. I stayed on my workout routine leading up to the wedding by running in the mornings and doing workouts with my bridesmaids.
Funniest Moment of the Trip (that is sharable in public)
One of the funniest moments on the trip happened when we went out to dinner on our last night. As the waitress went around the table, everyone ordered a fruity alcoholic beverage. I ordered a ginger beer, one of my favorite non-alcoholic drinks. The waitress asked for my ID, not knowing that it was non-alcoholic. I didn’t have my ID on me since I wasn’t driving or drinking. I told her that ginger beer doesn’t have alcohol, but she was still confused. Instead, I asked for a virgin piña colada. I don’t usually go for mocktails, but I was feeling the beach vibe and wanted to join my friends who ordered beachy drinks. By this time, our waitress caught on to that I wanted a non-alcoholic beverage.
In her mind, the only reason I would be sober at my own bachelorette party is if I was pregnant. She replied, “Ooooh, you know, my daughter was in that same situation before her wedding and she just had her baby last month!”
I held in my laughter and just went with it. “Oh, wow! Yeah…congrats!”
We all burst out laughing when she walked away from the table. The idea that I was pregnant was completely logical and an understandable reason for a woman to be sober. It was just not true for me or the reason I got sober. It wasn’t the appropriate time for me to tell her my story or correct her that I wasn’t pregnant. Then, it made the situation even funnier when she realized I was drinking out of a penis straw. Later we were asked to put the penis straws away because it was a “family-friendly restaurant.” The whole situation was hilarious. We carried on at our dinner and I enjoyed my virgin piña colada!
Best Weekend Ever
Looking back on the weekend, it couldn’t have been better. My bridesmaids were the best for planning so many activities and even cooking breakfast, lunch, and dinner most days. I am very lucky to have friends who were so thoughtful and made sure that I wouldn’t be pressured or feel like the odd one out because I don’t drink. It was so great to spend time with my friends to celebrate such a happy event in my life. I am able to look back on this weekend without feeling embarrassed or guilty. It was genuinely one of the best weekends of my life!
My bachelorette party was something that I worried about when I first got sober. I thought, “How could I possibly celebrate with my friends sober?” Now, I can’t imagine it any other way, penis straws and all.
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