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It is no secret that the last few weeks have been tough for everyone. I am a sucker for quotes, so I’ve rounded up these recovery quotes to inspire you during this hard time. Quotes (including many of these) are posted around my house to provide daily inspiration from authors and musicians I admire. I hope they inspire you too!
Recovery Quotes to Inspire You During this Hard Time:
1. “Vulnerability is strength.”
This quote is from RuPaul during his recent interview with Terry Gross on Fresh Air. He spoke about how many songwriters and actresses he admires pull from their vulnerability and portray strength at the same time. It reminded me of how much bravery and vulnerability it requires to stop drinking. Becoming sober takes self-reflection, pain, heartache, and determination. Showing our vulnerability by then sharing our story with another struggling addict or alcoholic is what saves lives.
Did you know that RuPaul is sober too?? YAS QUEEN. I also love his classic quote from Drag Race: “If you can’t love yourself, how the hell are you gonna love somebody else? Can I get an amen?”
2. “Every storm runs out of rain.”
When we are stuck in the middle of a tragedy or an emotional time, it is hard to see the end. This quote is great to remember when I feel like an emotion will last forever. Bright, happy times are always ahead.
3. “When you are healing and moving on, you will pass through the Valley of Tears, but you don’t have to camp there. ”
re you acquainted with the Valley of Tears? Dark Nights of the Soul? Depressive states? Many names exist for this familiar locale. I have experienced things in life that seem impossible to move on from. I try not to stay in that mindset for long.
Don’t get me wrong: I allow myself to wallow for some time. Staying on the couch, watching mindless tv, eating ice cream, you name it. Next, healing and movement can take place. Occasionally, I even have to distract myself in order to get out of that headspace, because staying sober is the most important thing for me.
If I stay in self-pity thinking WHY HOW OMG then my thoughts start going too deep and dark. Getting moving and out of the house is super important for me. (Hi, I’m an extrovert and want to be around people.)
4. “I am grateful for all that is unfolding in my life and all that is yet to come. ”
I’ve been on a self-acceptance and self-forgiveness journey lately. A few years ago, I wrote the affirmation shown. So much has unfolded since then! Here are a few ways I use positive affirmations like this one as a tool for growth & acceptance!
- Write affirmations in a journal.
- Repeat an affirmation as a mantra silently or out loud during meditation to center my mind.
- Write an affirmation and hang it somewhere I see frequently as a reminder. (This one hangs on the wall at my desk so I see it daily!)
- Repeat the affirmation silently while taking a deep breath when you are feeling anxious.
- When a negative thought arises, reject the negative and replace it with the positive affirmation.
Other affirmation ideas:
- I accept myself as I am.
- I accept my life as it is today.
- I am lovely and able to be loved.
- I can accomplish hard tasks.
5. “Giving advice never takes the place of giving yourself.”
Any time I start feeling very down or in my feelings, my mentor always says: “Maybe it’s time to call someone and just listen.”
The easiest way to get out of my emotions is to think about someone else. Something I’ve really been working on is not giving advice as much as giving my time. I am the type of person who is always trying to fix everything and everyone. (Middle child of divorced parents over here.)
Lately, I’ve been being intentional about asking, “Would you like my advice or for me just to listen?” Sometimes people say no, and that’s ok. And they have that right. Usually, my friends and family just need a listening ear or someone to spend time with them instead of my well-intentioned advice.
6. “Sometimes, you have to reintroduce yourself as who are you are now.”
When I see people from my past, I seriously feel like I need to reintroduce myself because I feel like a different person. I’ve honestly been struggling with regrets about the past… Most people worry about the future, but that’s not me.
I feel SO excited about the future and have a true feeling like everything is going to work out somehow (that’s new!). Now I am awake at night reliving the mistakes I made in the past… it’s horrible to think about. I have been able to let go of so much, but still have a way to go with that process. I know now that I can use my past in order to relate to others who have had similar experiences. It still hurts to think about it though.
I’m happy that I can use my experience and creativity to share my story now!
7. “I’m not going to sit here and wait for things to happen. I’m going to make them happen. And if people think I’m an idiot, then I don’t care.” – Wayne Coyne, The Flaming Lips
When I first stopped drinking, I was so worried about what other people would think. My worst fear when I first got sober was that people would think that I was boring now.
Guess what!!? I’m actually much more fun and way busier with all of my random hobbies now that I have more time on my hands not drinking!
8. “You don’t have to like something to accept it. You have to accept it to save your life.”
I used to think that accepting something meant that I thought that it was ok. This is not the case. I have learned that there are so many people and situations that I cannot change, especially events in the past. No matter what I do or say, I cannot change them!!! Accepting these people and the past as who and what they are… that is what is necessary for me to move forward.
Accepting something doesn’t mean that I am ok with what happened. It only means that I am letting go of it and focusing on what I can change. Acceptance is SUCH a hard thing for me. However, it’s something that I work on every day in order to move on and not focus on the past.
99% of the time when I am wallowing in my feelings, it’s because I am focusing on the past and not on TODAY. I wasn’t accepting what happened when I was still out drinking and using drugs.
That’s why acceptance is such a big part of my sobriety, but also the HARDEST thing. It’s something that I struggle with daily. Acceptance is what saved my life.
9. “You never know how strong you are until being strong is your only choice.” – Bob Marley
It’s true. The hard times in life have made me stronger than I ever knew I was. Getting sober at a young age, losing loved ones, staying sober through it all? Oh yeah…I did that and more.
The joy comes afterward, now that I can take the lessons learned from those experiences and help other women walking through them.
10. “If I can stop one heart from breaking, I shall not live in vain. If I can stop one life the aching, or cool one pain; or help one Fainting Robin into his nest again, I shall not live in vain.” – Emily Dickinson
This piece of paper has been taped on the wall behind my desk since before I even started my blog or instagram. I felt so inspired by this poem I found one morning while reading my meditation books that I printed an illustration of a Robin and wrote out the poem.
The metaphor is so beautiful, isn’t it? “If I can help one Fainting Robin into its nest again…” then all this hard work is with it. A million times, YES! Now this poem has become my mantra. (Fun fact: The orange in my logo and branding was inspired by the orange found on the face of a Robin!)
The passion behind My Sober Travels blog, and just my sober life in general, is truly to help others. Three years ago, I was a Fainting Robin myself and women helped me get back in my nest. Now, I can share what I’ve learned and also give a helping hand to anyone that needs it. For me, that is what life is all about, staying sober and sane so that I can help anyone who needs it along that way.
11. Poem by Swami Kripalu
This poem about loving yourself is one of my new favorite recovery quotes to inspire you.
12. “Whatever makes you weird, is probably your greatest asset.”
I used to think that what made me weird only made me, well, weird. Now, I know that makes me weird makes me MAGICAL , but most importantly, it allows me to help others along the way. Judgemental people can keep moving
Lots of other things other than being #soberaf make me weird and I LOVE IT. Is being quirky FINALLY cool now? I used to be embarrassed when people called me artsy-fartsy or found out I was sober. I’m over trying to hide what makes me “weird.” Cue “What makes you different makes you beautiful” from Princess Diaries.
Navigating Sobriety During this Crisis
I know that my sobriety has been shaken in the last few months due to all of the panic and chaos surrounding the pandemic. Reflecting on these quotes and others has helped me to stay centered. I hope that you enjoyed these recovery quotes to inspire you!