Yes, you can have fun with your significant other sober. Yes, it may be weird at first if all of your interactions were drunk before. I have always loved being active and doing stuff. I’m 100% an extrovert and had no desire to change this side of myself when I got sober. Honestly, any activity that you participated in while drinking can still be just as fun sober once you become comfortable with yourself in your sobriety. Obviously, the main person that I spend most of my time is my husband. Yes, we love to Netflix & Chill just as much as the next couple, but sometimes it is beneficial to leave the house and put on some cute clothes. Here are 10 sober activities for couples that don’t involve watching TV or drinking alcohol!
10 Sober Activities for Couples:
1. Attend a live concert
My husband is a musician and we still love to attend concerts now that I’m sober.
I know it feels like most concerts are held at bars and that drinking is always involved. However, there are lots of shows that occur at local parks and coffee shops. I didn’t go out to bars in the first few months of my sobriety and, now, I only go out to bars if I feel comfortable and not tempted. Personally, I will still dance or hang out at a bar with non-sober friends, but only if there is something happening there, like a drag show or live music. This is not a hard and fast rule, just my personal choice. Even when I was drinking, I did not enjoy sitting around a bar and just drinking. DO NOT go to a bar if you are not ready. I was not ready to attend events at a bar for at least the first year of my sobriety, and I still don’t enjoy hanging out at bars.
My husband and I live in Memphis, TN, and there are free concerts all the time, especially during the summer. Most free concerts are family-friendly, so I know there won’t be a ton of drinking. In Memphis, we have sites such as choose901.com that list the happenings of the weekend every Friday. I highly suggest finding a website like this in your town and attend a show!
I also have a Sober Travel Guide specifically for Memphis, if you live here!
2. Enjoy the sunshine at the park
I turned into a vampire when I was drinking constantly. I usually slept the day away and got up in the afternoon just to go out to bars at night. Now, I love to go on walks or lay in the sunshine at the park. Vitamin D is one of the best things you can do for your mood.
For a couple, what is more romantic than a picnic in the park? Pack some cheese, olives, and crackers with some alcohol-free drinks!
Some other ideas for the park are to go on a walk, toss the frisbee around, and if you have a furry friend, bring him or her along!
3. Do something adventurous
My husband and I enjoy trying new activities and challenging each other. (Ok, I can be a little competitive!) Getting out of your comfort zone is fun! Try kayaking, paddleboarding, or rock-climbing together.
Want to stay indoors? Sometimes escape rooms or ax throwing can be on the pricier side, but, dang, they are fun!
4. Follow a Bob Ross Tutorial Together
Confession: I love Jenna Marbles. She followed a Bob Ross tutorial in a YouTube video last year and I made it into a date night for me and my husband. I’d never seen a Bob Ross tutorial until our date night, and it turned out being super fun for us. I’m an artist and my husband is a chemist, so it was interesting for me to see how my husband painted. (Whoops, this one does involve watching tv but also painting so it doesn’t count, right?)
5. A night at the theater
Going to a play is like watching a movie together, just not on your couch in your pajamas, and the actors are actually there in the room with you! Plus, you get to put on your fancy pants. Find a play that interests you both. Many local theaters have pay-what-you-can nights, too!
6. Volunteer together
In my experience, getting sober helped me realize how much I really have in life. I love spending time helping others. Volunteering is a great habit to get into and helps you feel even more grateful.
7. Go to the arcade
Create some friendly competition at the arcade. My personal favorite is Pac-Man (even though my husband is better at it!)! Pinball, race games, our city even has a virtual reality arcade! We haven’t checked it out yet, but it’s on our list!
8. Play board games
Not even joking, we have played Battleship on a Friday night before. Some of our other favorites are Settlers of Catan, Gin Rummy, poker, Uno, and even Magic the Gathering. You can also make a fun night in a little spicy if you know what I mean (see activity #10).
9. Make dinner together
Wow, my husband and I are SUCH better cooks sober. We laugh about the concoctions we used to cook up while we were high! Now, we enjoy trying new recipes together!
Here are some of my favorite blogs to explore recipes:
Allrecipes.com (This site even has a feature in the search bar where you can list what ingredients you have on hand and it will show the recipes you can cook!)
Budget Bytes – (She has so many budget-friendly recipes to look through on her well-organized site.)
10. Have a romantic night together
Yes, you know what I mean! Want to liven things up in the bedroom? Here are some ideas: have a special night in the tub or go to a sex store with your partner. Sober sex is definitely different than sex fueled by alcohol or drugs, so don’t be afraid to explore it together! (This alcohol-free activity was recommended by my husband when I told him I was writing this blog post.)
Need more sober activities for couples? Create a list of your own!
When I first got sober, I thought, “there is no way I can enjoy life without alcohol, let alone go out and be social while sober.” Boy, was I wrong! I know it can be hard to believe at first, or at least until you experience it yourself, but I promise you that I have had more fun spending time with my husband sober than I ever did while I was drinking. All of these sober activities for couples are suggestions–if you aren’t a rock climber, or a gamer, or even if you hate being outdoors for whatever reason, I completely understand. I challenge you to make a list of ten things you have always wanted to do with your significant other sober! And please, let me know what you have tried, liked, hated, or created!